Sunday, September 7, 2008

Joy Stealers

Sometimes your better-half tries to steal your joy. I don't know if it's something that they are just going through, if they are unhappy with themselves, or they just want to be plain mean. But whatever the reason, if you just turn it around on them and make them understand how stupid they are being instead of being a victim and just taking it, you'll come out on top.


I've dealt with several disfunctional relationships. I dealt with this one guy for 11 years off and on, and if I learned nothing else from that experience I learned #1 not to back-track to relationships that are over and done with and #2 a person will only do to you what you allow them to do.


Sometimes you have to stand up for yourself and just be brave enough to suffer (or relish) in the consequences. Have standards-if you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything.


Name calling, for instance, is a definite"no-no" in my book. I think it's childish, it's insensitive, it's insulting, and it just shows that the person calling you the names is an idiot-plain and simple. If you are called a "Dumb ass" for instance, and the one who is calling you that name is in fact not smarter than you, then you should just laugh in his/her face because I suppose that's the best they could come up with.


And if they are insulting you on the amount of money you make, but they themselves actually depend on you (wheter they want to admit it or not), then you should just take in consideration that you are in a better position than they are and that they are just mad because they can't match your strength, so they try to knock you off balance.


It's called verbal and emotional abuse. Look it up. It's a sickness that they have and unfortunatly, so many of these people exist in the world. To stoop to name calling shows a lack of communication skills and/or vocabulary skills. Ask them to take an IQ test, and see who comes out on top. Typically, it's the one who does not call names, does not bully, and can make it on their own if the other one leaves. They pick on you because they know that you are better than them and it makes them feel good to piss on you-when in fact, the world is pissing on them.


Stay strong and believe in yourself. Don't believe the things they say to you because why would you believe an idiot?


Let go and let God.