One of Love's Defining Moments

I've often been quoted as saying "I'm in love with being in love". Anyone whose ever had a romantic relationship with me will admit that when I'm in love, I'm at my happiest. Anyone whose ever worked with me knows that when I'm in love with a job that I'm doing, I'm at my most productive. Whatever it is or whoever it is, I give my best when things are at its best.
But then there's the down side. Its what I call "Love's defining moment". Its when the last straw has been laid on the camel's back and there is no turning back. It's spoiled. It's tainted. It's done.
I don't like that part of love. It seems that I can never remember the moment I fell in love, but can always remember the moment I fell out of it.
With one person, it was the moment that they finally admitted that marriage was something they never wanted. With another it was the moment they admitted thatthey loved me more than they loved themselves. With another it was the moment they said they would do for themselves before they would do for me. For another it was the moment they raised a hand to strike me. For the one that meant the most-my mother-it was the moment I realized that all of the pain and suffering I had gone through was based on a lie.
There have been many. Because I am "in love with being in love", I love hard. But when its gone, it's gone-no turning back.
There are many defining moments in our lives. No matter good or bad, try to remember them because in some small way, they help to define who we are, what we stand for, and ultimatly who we will be.

Toys for Boys

I don't care how old a man gets, there is always that little kid inside of him that is thrilled to the core when presented a new "toy".
Whether its a new universal remote, a new hair clipper kit, or a new car (especially a new car), they will spend endless hours learning the ends and outs of it (and they'll stay out of trouble-if only for a little while).
They say you can't buy love. But its never been said that you can't celebrate love. Sometimes it takes an occasional gift to bring the spark back into his eyes. And in doing so, you will smile knowing that you are the source of that joy.
So on a day that is not a holiday or a special occasion, surprize your boy with a brand new toy. He'll love you for thinking of him, and you will feel the love ten times over!

Relationships-Is he/she the one for you?

At the end of the day, we are who we are. We can "modify" and "adapt",but we don't really change who we are. The good in all of as well as the bad has always existed within;it just takes certain experiences to bring those things out in us.
Too many times we feel as though we can change our loved ones. But, if we do not accept who they are in the first place then we must admit that they are not really for us. God created us all-so who are we to think that we can re-create another person?
Sure, we can assist, rehabiliate, teach, request, demand...and the list goes on;but the change in actions that another person makes is by choice,not necessarily by nature.
If you are with someone and feel that they could be much much better-then, of course, try to help them. But don't be disappointed if change isn't happening. And if all attempts fail, don't be afraid to realize that perhaps the person you are with may not be the person who is meant for you.
If you think about it, there were clues when you first began dating the person. Back then you probably didn't want to admit it-you felt that he/she would change or that those little pet-peave irritators would be something you could tolerate. But let me just tell you that if that was the case then you may have overlooked people that were actually more compatable with you.
Be fair AND honest with yourself. The truth hurts-but feeling unhappy and misplaced hurts far more.